Freundschaft am Arbeitsplatz und Hilfe unter Kollegen - friendship at work

Freundschaft am ArbeitsplatzAccording to a research study of TNS Emnid for Statista, the work atmosphere influences the quality of your work life immensely (by 55%). The tasks and the money you get for it are only ranked 2nd and 3rd with 42% and 38%. Imagine your whole work day would only consist of working. If there would be no fun in the office, the motivation and the mood in the office would decline. A company that doesn’t provide the time and space for fun and does not care about the company culture, is doomed to failure.
The quality of our work life depends on flexibility, the will to have efficient processes and on autonomy of a company’s employees. However, this condition requires certain prerequisites: A general trust in people, leaders that let their team members work independently and the will to get out of entrenched, contra-productive organisation and management behaviour. There’s definitely a price tag on this. So the challenge is not only a social one, it is also economical.


Many companies work in an atmosphere of withdrawal, discomfort and strains in the workplace. This situation should not be tackled off-limits or with denial. Quite the contrary, sources of creativity, quality and innovation should be detected, recognised and promoted further. If employees receive support from their colleagues, they will allow themselves to be more creative and come up with innovative ideas. Two heads are better than one: People being able to communicate their ideas are important to increase productivity in the whole company.

Friendships form easily if the work environment is a positive one. It’s the small things that foster friendship at the workplace: coffee or cigarette breaks, lunch or parties with colleagues. Meeting outside of work strengthens a friendly bond between employees. Having a friend at work is just the simple feeling of knowing who to go to if you need an advice or someone to rely on.

But how to make friends at work?

There’s no universal way for that.. Initially you should be honest and solidary in order to overcome stress and making difficult decisions. In the best case, you should be able to support your colleagues actively and really listen to what they are saying. Most people make the same mistake: They ask a question and their brain already thinks about the next question or response instead of listening to what their opposite actually replies.

Also, don’t give too many advices without being asked. In some situations, you might think you know something better. But sometimes people only want to have someone who listens to them, not someone who gives them advice all the time.

Super important: Don’t judge your colleague’s statements and do not devalue them. Generally don’t look down on people! Be supportive if people need help or an advice, they will appreciate it. And this is also the way how to establish a friendship.

Maintaining and nurturing a friendship simplifies communication. Being friends makes it easier to tell your opposite what works right. On the other hand, it makes it harder to tell your friends what goes wrong in their work.

Where do you get your help at work when you need it? It is definitely easier to ask your colleague for help than your manager. Furthermore, you do not immediately waste your boss’ valuable time.

die richtige Kommunikation ist wichtig, wenn man Kollegen um Hilfe bittet

How to ask for help:

It is really important to communicate clearly if you need help. If you don’t do that, the general communication further complicates. Take your time to identify and explain your exact needs when asking for help.

Don’t forget to make a list of your own ideas to resolve the problem and try it out before asking others.

Why are we so scared to ask for help?

Not matter if you as for small or big favors: Asking for help always means to admit your own inabilities or powerlessness – even if it’s just a quick hint you need in order to move on. For some of us, this confession is pretty painful at times. Other people hesitate to ask for help because they feel like they don’t want to disturb someone.

We should realise that our counterpart is old enough to say “No” if they can’t help us or don’t have the time for it. Everyone fears a “No” sometimes. You will certainly know situations when you imagine things or refuse help as you underestimate your needs of help. Then why do we sorrow so much? Sometimes we just can’t separate work related from personal issues and feel offended.

Don’t forget: You are actually in a win-win situation. A lot of people are even happy to help you. Don’t hesitate! Just ask for a favor or help and see what happens. Living and working together includes exchange, sharing and helping each other.

If we manage to help our colleagues, we feel helpful and proud. This is what makes the work atmosphere more cheerful.


Author: Priscilla Condette